Melissa Fritchle, LMFT

Holistic Psychotherapy in Santa Cruz

Training for Professionals


In Person Trainings : 

CAFE CAMFT Talk : Addressing Sexual Desire Discrepancies in Couples Therapy                                                                                                          Friday Feb 14, 9am - 11:30am

sponsored by Santa Cruz CAMFT, 2 CE Credits, $20 for non-members, $10 for members

Differing levels of sexual interest and drive is a common concern for couples. But are you talking about it in therapy? Attachment and good communication are often not enough to untangle sexual incompatibility or ongoing frustrations. In this talk you will gain tools to facilitate real discussion about sexual desire and to help couples’ develop both sexual empathy & differentiation.

Come to this session if you'd like to learn more about:

  • How to bring up sexual desire issues with couples
  • Assessing sexual differences and co-occurring issues
  • Teaching sexual negotiation skills
  • How and when to refer to sex therapy

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Relationship Repair After Infidelity

Saturday Feb 22, 2020 9:30am - 3:30pm                               

co-sponsored by Shine a Light Counseling Center at Resource Center for Non-Violence, Santa Cruz      $90 (5 CA BBS CE hours) 

It is estimated that 20% of divorces cite infidelity as the main reason for the split. Even more couples will come to therapy to address issues stemming from one or both partners breaking monogamy agreements. And yet, many couples therapists feel overwhelmed by the intensity during the early phase with clients, unclear how to help clients process what has happened, and unprepared to support clients in creating a new phase of their relationship. Get tools for addressing each of the phases of recovery from a betrayal with a focus on the diversity of love, sexuality and human relationships. 

Learning Objectives 

Apply increased knowledge of diversity within infidelity experiences

Identify the roles an affair can play in the life of a relationship

Predict common phases of recovery after an affair

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 Live Online Trainings:

New offerings coming soon 


 Online Trainings Available Anytime, Anywhere :

Supporting Families When Kids are Becoming Sexually Active 

Offered Through AAMFT $35 

Facing the realities of a child's sexuality can be difficult for any parent. As therapists, people turn to us for guidance on how to manage this aspect of parenting and family life. In this webinar Sex Therapist & Educator Melissa Fritchle will discuss developmental sexuality in the context of our modern life so that we can help parents be positive and proactive as their children grow into adulthood. She will outline some of the current topics families may face such as, masturbation, porn, consent, gender, STDs, birth control, abstinence. Providing diverse sex positive-therapy means focusing on ways to support parents clarify and articulate their own ethics, fears, and hopes regarding their children's sexuality, while always considering our own counter-transference and mythologies so that we can be more effective. 

 Working With Sexual Desire in Couples Therapy

 Offered Through AAMFT      $35

The most common sexual complaint clients will bring to couples therapy is low sexual desire, for one or both partners. And yet, many therapists feel at a loss in how to address this complex issue and the relational fallout that can occur for couples after years of a struggling sex life. In this webinar, Ms. Fritchle will look at the newest diagnostic features for low desire and talk about the discrepancies in how to define low desire at all. Ms. Fritchle will outline a holistic sexual assessment that takes into account the interrelated physical, social, spiritual, and mental aspects that can impact desire. She will address common dynamics seen in couples related to low desire, including non-sexual couples, and how to support them in seeking change.  

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 Professional Consultations:

 I offer private consultations with therapists and health professionals. Do you want to work more holistically with your clients? Do you want to feel more inspired and empowered to create change? Do you want to expand your healing practice to include more depth in the areas of sex and relationships? We can schedule your private consultation as a phone session or in my office. I charge $100/hour for consultations; you can talk about as many cases as you like.